Friday, July 1, 2011

Polygamy

Hindu Marriage Act prohibits Polygamy. But Hindu scriptures mention its practice and lays down certain guidelines on polygamy. Sri Sri Thakur Anukul Chandra has advocated polygamy with scientific basis. The objective is better and higher progeny and upward social mobility.

A nation is considered to be progressive and civilized if its sex ratio at birth (number of females per 1000 males at birth) is more than 1000. It is also a fact that natural survival capability and longevity of females is more than males. So, unless a society wants a sizeable number of females to remain unmarried lifelong, it is a simple logic that a society has to practice polygamy. This bears more significance as motherhood symbolizes a successful womanhood.

Polygamy was banned since the period of Raghunandan, a scholar of 16th Century AD.  Sri Sri Thakur observes, ‘I sometimes think that Raghunandan was forced to do so under conspiracy and pressure from opposing forces. As a result of ban in polygamy, the expansion and power of absorption of Hindu society got hampered and there had been opportunity for some classes to grow in numbers. There had been many invasions on India before, but there is no way to trace them today as the invaders have been integrated into Aryan society through anuloma (hypergamous) marriage according to their traits. The path of divine integration has not been hampered but widened in the process.’ (Alo. Pra.Vol.11: 24-2-48).

Sri Sri Thakur tells, marrying even a thousand times is not a sin if the male does not become wife-centric. But even a monogamous relation becomes a sin where the male is wife-centric. Marriage means to carry on (bahana) wife. Marriage is for females (bibaaha) and carrying up (udbaaha) for males. The males being adhered to Ista will carry the Ideal forward. (Alo. Pra.Vol.22: 10-3-53).

Just promotion of polygamy is not enough. It has to be hypergamous in nature so that superior progeny increases. Alo. Pra.Vol.14: 29-10-48). But, it must be kept in mind that hypergamous marriage between two varna is not allowed unless the first marriage has been solemnized in the same varna. The aim is to retain the original homologous hereditary trait. That is why, our scriptures praise and recommend so much in favour of marriages in similar clan and varna. If a Bipra marries a Bipra, he will have the progeny of same varna. Then, if he has a Kshatriya wife, the progeny will have a happy blending of Bipra instinct and Kshatriya temperament. Like this, through different combinations, new specific varieties will evolve which will make nation richer and more varied. But in such cases, it will be a good practice to write the identity of the hypergamous progeny in bracket while mentioning the father’s title. If the father is Chattopadhyay and mother Baishya, the child will write Chattopadhyay (Ambostha). Otherwise, there could be a chaos in matters related to marriage and food hygiene (Alo. Pra.Vol.12: 27-5-48).


Commenting upon the ban of polygamy, Sri Sri Thakur tells—we are thus inviting catastrophe. This will make some females wretched who would become easy prey for all. Muslims have been able to retain polygamy by abiding to the sayings of Hazrat Rasul. But no one lends an ear to our Rasuls and rishis. In polygamy, the first wife of the husband and the husband combined becomes the swami (husband). Swami means satta (soul) — life. The meaning of swami is not the same as that of the word ‘husband’ which actually means landlord.  Even the word ‘satin’ also means satta. The rule in polygamy is that husband can’t remarry without the consent of first wife. The implication is that Lord Ramachnadra could have remarried only after being consented by Sita. In the past, when marriage of a girl of higher varna used to be solemnized, 2-3 girls of lower varna used to be given as dowry who were known as maid-wives. But how vigorous used to be their children! The aim behind the system was to push for higher genetic enrichment through all possible ways (Alo. Pra.Vol.12: 9-7-48).

Adultery is not good both for males and females. If females do not maintain chastity, they can never ever be mother of good progeny even though polygamy aims at increasing efficient persons in society. Therefore, such a climate needs to be created that the females never step into adultery even at the cost of their life. (Alo. Pra.Vol.12: 26-5-48)

Polygamy is to be practiced in the manner it is prescribed in our scripture. (Alo. Pra.Vol.20: 24-1-52). Sri Sri Thakur says, ‘if you consider polygamy is justified, then it has to


be practiced. Though this will lead you to jail, still you have to adhere to it and embrace jail. If competent males do not practice polygamy and good progeny do not increase, then there will be a scarcity of cultivated cultured souls. The inferior will outnumber and will be the cause of ruin to nation. If we desire eminent progeny, then it is essential to solemnize the savarna and anuloma marriages for deserving males. Then only the nation will be enlivened again.’ (Alo. Pra.Vol.21: 11-1-53)

The underlying thought in this discussion is that marriage is a sacred institution (sanskar) meant for fulfillment of two souls, through mutual sharing and caring, leading to upward mobility of self and society, through progeny. This is better achieved by principles of eugenics and varnashram based social structure. It is to be understood that each stage in the life of an individual and particularly marriage is significant from the point of view of refinement, elevation and satisfaction. Therefore, polygamy is not to be mistaken as a license for reckless sensual enjoyment with multiple partners, rather a tool to bring completeness into life of individual while putting him/her at an elevated mode.  


Testa-maxim


Marriage-Ever Inseparable

Compatible marriage in similar clans is ever inseparable. —The Message; Vol. VII: 137


Compatible Hypergamy

Compatible hypergamy with the male of pure line is the fair line in society. —The Message; Vol. VII: 139

Chastity Denotes Females

Chastity specially denotes females because they conceive. —The Message; Vol. VII: 211

Hypergamy

Hypergamy indicates superior breed of male of higher caste with female of inferior one in specific species. —The Message; Vol. VII: 194

Save the Country

Save the country from the tyranny of hypogammy of females—the drowning deterioration, the hellish havoc of existence. —The Message; Vol. VII: 196
 
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9 comments:

Life is good said...

What is the difference between a man and a dog or any other animal then....after above discussion...according to thakur....man should not be wife centric then why a wife should bd husband centric....mantra told during hindu marriage is...." Yadidan hridaayan taba , taditan hridayaam mama" means you should love me only then i will love you....if a husband goes for many wives then how long a wife can love him or respect him?

Unknown said...

Dear Ma,

"A man should not be wife-centric" doesn't mean that man wouldn't love his wife. It means, as I understand, is that it's not good for a man if the sole purpose of his life is to please his wife.

According to Thakurji, A man is allowed to take more wives only with the consent of his first wife. To be more accurate, this is not something made up by Thakurji, rather reinstated from Hindu Sastra Manu Smriti, the social code of being and becoming written/formulated by Vagaban Manu.

As Thakurji has mentioned, in a marriage, it is "Bibaha" for women and "Udbaha" for men. To give a rough idea, a marriage is a process where the women are inclined to the men i.e. a proper marriage elevates the women. Thus, for a proper marriage, the man/groom has to be venerable, respectable, just, honest; so that his character is capable of attracting devotion.

Also, this content is not promoting polygamy. It is clearly stated that it requires qualifications to be eligible for multiple marriage. The Rishis were eligible and we can see in the scriptures that they had multiple wives.
Example- Maharshi Yagnavalkya had two wives: devi Maitreyi and devi Katyayani.

I hope this answers your question.

Satsangee said...
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Unknown said...

What will happen if a boy who is "napit" by varna is married to a girl who is"bhramhin" ?


What if they lead their life happily ... What will be the problem ?
People are doing intercast marriages are happy leading their life with happiness . If the husband is able to keep his wife happy .. is that not what Sri Sri Thakur wanted ?

Unknown said...

Protilom e ku er jonom/ rashtra-somaj-jatir jom. ---- Sri Sri Thakur

Paul@Amitav said...

I didn't understand one thing though. Why polygamy isn't allowed for female. In a country where male ratio is more than female ratio if polygamy is practiced more men will remain unmarried which will lead to "chaos" as per thakur.so if a good wife can marry multiple men then there won't be anyone left to create chaos. Please clear my doubt.

Surajit said...

There are few points to focus upon:
(1) Anukulji married four females well before his claim as Guru.
(2) No-where found any comments from these wives as their happy permission.
(3) As mentioned three/four females with queen were gifted as maid during the marriage of a king but neither he was a king nor his three wives were maids and later the children are not salves. Instead these wives and sons are running the business successfully.
(4) His said path of polygamy and breeding 10 children by a man shows no difference with Muslims.
So...., think...., should Indians (Hindus) follow such type of philosophy or such kind of self proclaimed Gurus? Should we treat him as a role model of our life? How long such kind of self proclaimed gurus will divert the Hindus? Sri Krshna may claim as god as he was the avatar of Sri Vishnu as Purana says.
God should be in god's place, don't make any human as god.
Get confidence on yourself and walk the path of your life. You need not require any Guru. As Geeta Says: Do your karma rightly. Doing any karma do it heartily and ask yourself whether it is right or wrong! You shall get the answer and act accordingly. This will help you to walk safely in rest of your life.

M swain said...

A man is not meant to please his wife then how a woman is made to please her husband only.A double standard view.

Unknown said...

Lechery at its best